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Match #3: 2009 World Masters Games

Well it happened again – I was up 2 games and then lost the next 2. But now I know what’s going on. I am in-between several improvements in my training and when I play to win, I win and when I let up and play not to lose I actually don’t win… It’s a very slight nuance, but one that today became crystal clear, in hindsight. So, you want to know what happened in game 5?

World Masters Games Sydney2009I came out with all 8 cylinders and double barrels loaded – got up 5-0 and took the game 11-6 – with total power, pace and intensity that was firewalking, over-the-top full-on domination.

I felt good to finally figure this out. Of course in hindsight it’s always 20-20…

I suspected this was happening, but because I didn’t feel or think (self-talk) I was doing this, it was hard to pin point.

Throughout this competition I’ve felt confident, strong and in control – in the past I didn’t have this match confidence due to lack of experience. I’ve played less than 10 competitive matches in total, so to get to world-class competition this quickly means there are going to be gaps to fill.

More match play will fill this gap as will targeted training sessions once this competition is over.

Lessons of the day that I can share publicly are:

Once you ‘decide’ to win, something changes in your physiology, body chemistry and of course mindset. Sure this sounds self-evident, but anyone who’s competed and punched above his or her weight understands this pivotal shift.

I just hadn’t realised I had dialled it down one notch since my self-talk hadn’t changed – I wasn’t saying or thinking different things even though my body was.

The scores in this match were 11-6, 11-9, 9-11, 4-11 and 11-6. The third game was the one I should and could have put away, losing it by 2 points – that’s the lesson I’ve learned – to trust my instincts and abilities to red line it when it counts.

The other lesson was the preparation for today’s match – I did a few things to make sure I was ‘ready’ – in doing so, I noticed others who were also doing likewise – until today I had never even thought they would be there…

It’s confidential because at the top levels, everyone’s trying to get and keep the edge so I can’t divulge who and what they were doing because I wouldn’t want them doing that to me.

That’s the other lesson I learned today – the camaraderie is quite something. I’ve said it before how positive an environment it is with world-class competitors who are fit and healthy…

I obviously highly recommend it to anyone who’s feeling alone, left out or otherwise excluded. Any sport or group activity that is competitive will attract this positive and supportive environmental factor…

So that’s it for today – tomorrow’s match is another challenge – one that I look forward to.

Wish me luck!

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Why I Am Not Expecting To Be World Champion

I had breakfast with someone recently who was surprised that I said I wasn’t aiming to be a World Masters Champion and that it wasn’t a self-defeating prophecy. I had to explain that I couldn’t afford the opportunity cost and that in the overall scheme of things ‘no one cares’ about a Gold Medal in my desk drawer.

That being said, I explained that my goals have been to get in the ‘Top 100′ last year, I made the ‘Top 50′. This year I am aiming for the ‘Top 32′ and the year after that, the ‘Top 16′. That is where I think I will reach my maximum skills and fitness —> That I am willing to create and invest in.

Sure, I could stop working, get myself a coach, a dozen players to train and WIN a World Championship, but what would I do the day after that?

What would it have cost me?

What would be the point?

I have a big ego, but not THAT big.

I also have an equally big INTELLECT (a.k.a. a brain that stills works).

I reckon that I can reach the TOP 16 in the world AND not get injured OR create any long-term damage to my body AND be fit, heathly and vitally strong AND be professionally and financially successful AND enhance my personal/romantic relationship AND expand my ‘inner circle’ of friends…

As you might know, my mission in life is “to continue living my dream and empower others to do the same“.

My dream is to become the best ‘me’ I can be. That means “I can have it all”.

I don’t want ONE thing at the cost of everything else.

If I do end up winning a World Championship, trust me – I’ll take it!

But my goal, my outcome is NOT uni-dimensional. It’s multi-dimensional BECAUSE that’s what I’m all about – life is an adventure, a journey that isn’t and should never be about juts ONE thing.

It should be about living a FULL-FILLING LIFE.

Anyway, that’s my outcome/goal/result/reward I want.

I am having a BLAST as I happily achieve rather than achieving to be happy.

I just wanted you to know – so you can appreciate a different, antimimeticisomorphic perspective on ‘winning’.

I’ll tell you about an experience of lifetime I had this week with someone I consider to be a ‘World Champion of his life even though he only reached #7 in the world in squash…’ In my esteem, he’s ‘World #1 in inspiration, leadership, tenacity and excellence of leading by example’.

More about him in an upcoming blog post.

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