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Willpower is like a battery…

Every once in a while I learn something new that I know will change my life from this day forward…

Until recently, I did not know that willpower was affected by what we eat and what we do. For example, you decide you want to do exercise or are watching what you eat. You have the willpower to make the decision and stick to it… But then something happens to reduce your willpower – not a threat or obstacle to your goal, but sometime to reduce your WILL to stick to your plan!

For example, if you are working really hard intellectually, using your mind on a highly focused task – your willpower for your exercise or diet will decrease!

The more we use our minds, the less minding (will) power we have.

Are you as shocked as I was?!?!?

WOW!

So whatWillpower and batteries do we need to do when we create a (willpower) deficit? Recharge it! Simple as that. Have something healthy to eat, do some exercise, do something you enjoy and like doing, rest and recuperate. Recharge your willpower and you’ll quickly notice it’s easy to stick to the (your) plan.

Contrary to popular belief, it is not obstacles or your desire to achieve your goals that wanes – it’s the willpower that ebbs and flows throughout your day. As you would expect, left unchecked, your willpower will diminish as your day progresses. If you are committed to your goal(s), you need to plan to recharge your willpower as much as you do getting your running shoes out and/or cooking that healthy meal.

 

 

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Onward and upward!

I took this photo at the start of a road trip from Sydney to Brisbane in 2009. Monica and I thought we’d drive up the coast at least once. It was a great trip – especially with the top down all the way there and back!

This photo vividly illustrates my signature sign off “Onward and upward!”

Almost 20 years ago, I read somewhere that having a unique and authentic sign off can have dramatic and long-lasting benefits. Onward and upward is what I am all about. As Anthony Robbins reminds us, “The past does not equal the future” and others have said “you don’t drive forward looking in the rear view mirror”.

All that being said, pushing “Onward and upward!” is a commitment, a philosophy, a mindset. Not one that can (or should) be embraced by everyone. It’s a responsibility to hold yourself to a higher standard – especially when you don’t want to.

I come across three types of people as The Exponential Growth Strategist.

Type #1: They will never achieve their dreams or reach their ultimate destiny. They don’t give up, they just never even try, thinking it’s not worth the effort. They’re right. If they don’t believe in themselves, it won’t happen.

Type #2: They would “like” their lives to change and give it a go from time to time, but always let themselves and others down by not following through. It’s like a see saw… up and down and up and down – within a range of results/weight/effort. These are the people who have some hope, but no drive. Unless they have a “defining moment” to give them the impetus to want to do what’s necessary, it just never happens and they commiserate with Type #1.

Type #3: They are driven, focused and determined to make things happen. They enjoy the process because they know success is about the journey of (self) discovery and not a destination. They are optimistic in nature seeing setbacks as lessons to be learned. They can visualise their end goals clearly. They are “at one” with their destiny that unfolds before them one day at a time.

Which type are you?

Here’s the good news – if you’re Type #2, you can shift to Type #3. Anecdotally, I have never seen a Type 1 shift to Type 2 or Type 3. They were always Type 2 to start off with. Are these types value judgments? Yes they are. Is one type better than another? No.

We are who we are and not everyone can achieve and win the game of life, business, wealth, success. There are and always will be winners and losers. The only question is which one do you want to be?

It’s your choice if your Type #2 or #3, If you’re Type #1, there is no choice, no option. You’re not officially a loser because you can’t lose if you were never in the game, on the field, on the court.

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Why I Am Not Expecting To Be World Champion

I had breakfast with someone recently who was surprised that I said I wasn’t aiming to be a World Masters Champion and that it wasn’t a self-defeating prophecy. I had to explain that I couldn’t afford the opportunity cost and that in the overall scheme of things ‘no one cares’ about a Gold Medal in my desk drawer.

That being said, I explained that my goals have been to get in the ‘Top 100′ last year, I made the ‘Top 50′. This year I am aiming for the ‘Top 32′ and the year after that, the ‘Top 16′. That is where I think I will reach my maximum skills and fitness —> That I am willing to create and invest in.

Sure, I could stop working, get myself a coach, a dozen players to train and WIN a World Championship, but what would I do the day after that?

What would it have cost me?

What would be the point?

I have a big ego, but not THAT big.

I also have an equally big INTELLECT (a.k.a. a brain that stills works).

I reckon that I can reach the TOP 16 in the world AND not get injured OR create any long-term damage to my body AND be fit, heathly and vitally strong AND be professionally and financially successful AND enhance my personal/romantic relationship AND expand my ‘inner circle’ of friends…

As you might know, my mission in life is “to continue living my dream and empower others to do the same“.

My dream is to become the best ‘me’ I can be. That means “I can have it all”.

I don’t want ONE thing at the cost of everything else.

If I do end up winning a World Championship, trust me – I’ll take it!

But my goal, my outcome is NOT uni-dimensional. It’s multi-dimensional BECAUSE that’s what I’m all about – life is an adventure, a journey that isn’t and should never be about juts ONE thing.

It should be about living a FULL-FILLING LIFE.

Anyway, that’s my outcome/goal/result/reward I want.

I am having a BLAST as I happily achieve rather than achieving to be happy.

I just wanted you to know – so you can appreciate a different, antimimeticisomorphic perspective on ‘winning’.

I’ll tell you about an experience of lifetime I had this week with someone I consider to be a ‘World Champion of his life even though he only reached #7 in the world in squash…’ In my esteem, he’s ‘World #1 in inspiration, leadership, tenacity and excellence of leading by example’.

More about him in an upcoming blog post.

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