Tag Archive for 'Motivation'

Rules Or Rewards

“We Are Rules OR We’re Rewards”
–Dr Marc Dussault

A RULE is EVERYTHING that HAS TO HAPPEN to feel X. A reward is what you are aiming to achieve.

For example, a mother might have RULES that to be happy (Reward):

  • The house has to be spotless.
  • All the kids are in a good mood every day.
  • All the kids are getting straight As.
  • Her husband NEVER works late.
  • The garden is perfectly groomed.

A business person might have RULES that:

  • They have to win EVERY JOB that comes in.
  • Employees all have to do to their jobs PERFECTLY.
  • Nothing ever goes wrong.
  • ALL his/her to do list items are completed EVERY day.

The more extreme the list of RULES – the WORSE it is.

When it gets out of hand, it’s OCD (Obssessive Compulsive Disorder), but it’s destructive way before it gets to that point.

RULES are insidious – they kill relationships and create conflict and confrontation where there is no “logical” reason for it.

Most arguments are rules-based.

  • I want the towel hung up on THIS hook.
  • Why can’t you put the dishes in the dishwasher instead of the counter/sink?
  • Why do you have to put so much toothpaste on your brush?
  • I wanted my egg soft-boiled, now it’s hard boiled!

Y’see what I mean?

It,s much harder than it sounds to reduce the number of RULES that RUIN your life, but start the process by writing them down – AS THEY OCCUR.

These are not the same as disempowering beliefs or thoughts.. RULES are things that MUST happen for you to feel X…

Review the lists above and give it a go – you can’t get it wrong… You can only ignore it at your peril.

Psst! If you can’t do it to yourself – OBSERVE others – You’ll quickly recognise them when you realise how ridiculous most of them are!

 

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Inertia – the hardest force to overcome

Today’s blog post is a reminder we all need – especially when the new year starts and we’re filled with optimism and hope for things to change.

Without wanting to sound heavy-handed, cynical or critical – no one aims to become overweight, fat or obese and yet in the developed world, the statistics are staggering – 2 out of every 3 people is considered overweight…

How does that happen?

One bite at a time.

The concept is called inertia: Defined as “The predisposition for a body to remain in the state that it’s in.”

We know the feeling when we’re lying in a warm, soft bed, the last thing we want is to get out of bed.

That’s inertia.

Inertia is the #1 force that prevents us from achieving our goals, dreams and aspirations.

The following 3 blog posts are “classics” – I encourage you to read them and make the decision to overcome your inertia – TODAY, THIS YEAR.

Are you a champion? Do you have what it takes to become one?

How to create momentum from motivation

Why smart business people fail

My approach to live and business is uniquely “different” – if you want extra-ordinary results in your business, read the summary of my mentoring methodology.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/coaching-philosophy/

If you want to make this year your best year ever, this is my all-time most popular program:

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/personal/my-best-year-ever/

If you want to understand my bias, have a look at my personal and professional profile. I have lived these strategies and boundless possibility thinking to create my own ultimate destiny.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/dr-marc-dussault/

Psst! Even though we are just starting the month of February, most people have already forgotten their New Year’s Resolutions… Isn’t that shocking?

Oops… Am I talking about you?

Sorry… but it is what it is – unless you have a system or process that works. Check out My Best Year Ever program. You can start it today and make 2015 DIFFERENT and BETTER than 2014.

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Inspirational Quote: The best is yet to come!

Your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come

Always remember that your current situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come


Your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come

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Inspirational Quote: Don’t keep re-reading the past

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.
Next Chapter

If you want to create the ultimate destiny for yourself, I invite you to do My Best Year Ever Program – based on the well known process of New Year’s Resolutions.

Most people struggle with NOT KNOWING what they want. This step-by-step program will help you determine what you want so you can write the next chapter of your life as you would like it to unfold.

How exciting would it be if you could write your own future? I call that 20/20 Foresight – it’s a skill I teach ambitious business people. The hardest part of the process is knowing what you want.

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Everything is nothing… with a twist

Everything - Nothing

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Be Outstanding

Tweet - Outstanding

I know my recent blog posts have been lighthearted, because life is a balance between the serious achievement orientation that discipline requires and the creative, fun and adhoc contribution that humour provides. Taking life too seriously serves no purpose – it’s to be lived and enjoyed.

Success is in the journey – NOT the destination.

It’s easy to forget that…

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Two Words

If you could write to your younger self, using only two words, what would they be?
Respond by placing a comment below.

Note to yourself - Two words

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Don’t Wait For The Applause

There are many times when you do stuff that needs to be done, for all the right reasons and no one is there to applaud you. No one celebrates a non-failure.

That’s why politicians are so reluctant to err on the side or PREVENTION – they would rather deal with a CLEANUP effort than a costly avoidance of a catastrophe.

For example,the Brisbane CBD flood that could have been avoided/substantially reduced with advance minor flooding instead of the disaster it was.

In personal development (and sports mental toughness) it’s a hard concept for MOST people to understand.

MOST people are NOT champions. MOST people are CARIBOU, happy to be in the herd and not have to deal with extreme emotions and THANKLESS efforts.

That’s where maturity and self-knowledge comes in. Doing what’s right and necessary rather than what’s “quick and easy”.

I see it often with parents and their kids. The kid pulls a tantrum and they give in to the “easy” solution.

In one case, a friend gave in to his single daughter’s pleas to sleep in their bed on a REGULAR basis until she was more than 8 years old – all because he didn’t want to deal with ONE WEEK OF WEANING HER OFF THE HABIT (and deal with the nightly tantrums…)

An ounce of perspiration is worth a gallon of blood.

Continue reading ‘Don’t Wait For The Applause’

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LukyMe Vanity plate

While driving around, I spotted this vanity plate and the setting was perfect…

I thought it would be a great visual to ask you the question “Do you feel lucky?”

Vanity Plate

Luky Me Plate

If you don’t feel lucky, why not? You can create your own luck when you adopt Exponential Mindset Thinking™.

As Norman Vincent Peale professed “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Feeling angry, envious or resentful toward someone who appears “luckier” than you is not the way to be successful.

What you want to do is getting into the right “mindspace” and manifest those things you want – FIRST by BELIEVING they can happen.

Then by MAKING them happen.

It’s what I do for my clients – creating success with a work-life balance approach that doesn’t compromise your RESULTS.

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Two Wolves

This is probably the best I have ever heard life explained, it’s from Daniel Doiron in Montreal, Canada.

Two Wolves

Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

“One is Evil -  It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is Good -  It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

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