How To Attract People To YOU Like A MAGNET

Do you attract people to you like a magnet?  If not, how can you do it? First I’m going to reveal the secret to you and then I’m going to give you some context to think about.

The secret – Be The MOST POSITIVE Person YOU KNOW

THINK ABOUT THIS – Have you ever noticed how you are just drawn to some people?  When they walk in the room, you just can’t stop staring at them.  You want to be around them, you hope they will notice you and just give you some little sign, no matter how small, that they notice you…you may even seek their approval.

WHY?

What is it they possess that makes them so intriguing, inspiring, attractive or appealing?  The truth is, you have the EXACT same qualities as them.  If YOU spot it, YOU’VE got it!

You can only admire a quality in another person if you also have that quality – so that’s the good news.

Now the not so good news, most people have no clue that they have qualities, talents and gifts that others find attractive.  Most of us like playing things down, you know, keeping a lid on it we would rather shrink instead of SHINE.

After coaching people for many years, here’s one thing I’ve noticed; there are so many of us that would never ever even dream of admitting to ourselves, let alone others, that we are incredible, awesome, amazing, intelligent, inspirational and the list goes on.  In fact, I find it so crazy that so many people actually feel like publicly acknowledging their strengths is a negative quality.

For whatever reason, we can tell ourselves that letting people know what we’re great at is equivalent to bragging, showing off or being cocky.  I’ve met people where I couldn’t find their strengths with a search warrant… seriously they’re so hell bent on PLAYING SMALL that finding their strengths feels like trying to find the Da Vinci Code!

NEWSFLASH – There are things you can do that no one else in the world can do.  There is something that you are THE BEST in the world at!  So what are you the BEST AT?

Is it inspiring people, is it being cool under pressure, is it caring about other people, is it having an entrepreneurial mind, is it setting goals, is it being a methodical planner, is it always raising people’s spirits…you get the drift.

So what does this have to do with being attractive?

You can NEVER be attractive to other people unless you are first attractive to yourself.  Now I know you may be thinking, “what the hell does that mean?”

It simply means acknowledging to yourself that you possess amazing qualities.  I know you still may be thinking, “yeah so what does this have to do with being attractive?”.

So here’s the answer.  Self acknowledgement leads to self confidence AND self confidence, is the key to maintaining a POSITIVE mindset.

REMEMBER – Be The MOST POSITIVE Person YOU KNOW.  Instead of explaining why, I’ll ask you some questions.

• Would you rather spend your time with the Grim Reaper or the person who’s your Cheerleader?
• Do you enjoy spending your time with people who take your energy or people who GIVE you energy?
• Have you got friends that are needy, whingers, complainers or drama queens… If you have, do you want to run towards them or run AWAY from them?
• Do you love the company of the sarcastic smart arse or the genuinely funny person who if they have to make a joke about someone, they make it about themselves?

Qualities that REPEL others – sarcasm, gossiping, being a victim, neediness, low energy, cynicism, bragging, showing no emotion, inability to apologise, not recognising others contributions, being stingy with compliments, talking yourself up, talking others down, greediness, attention seeking, sucking up to people, cracking personal jokes without any rapport amongst, being too busy for people who are lower than you on the corporate ladder.

Qualities that ATTRACT others – warmth, laughter, generousity, holding the door open for someone, saying good morning/good night/have a nice weekend, praising people publicly/privately, saying sorry, treating ALL people equally, forgiveness, humility, intelligence, openness, acceptance, congruence, straight forwardness, reliability, keeping commitments, thanking people for their time, creating value for others without asking for anything in return and more.

ACTION STEP – No one ever ruined their eyesight by looking on the bright side.  Do ONE thing daily to make someone’s day.  Acknowledge a co-worker, compliment someone, acknowledge how much you value a friend, leave a surprise hand written note of thanks, tell someone’s boss how good they are, be the first to say sorry, call instead of text/email and KEEP doing it.  Do this and you will more people throwing themselves at you than you can handle.

Do it, do it NOW!