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What will your legacy be?

Will it be as funny as this one published in The Star.

OBITUARY
STOCKS, Mary Patricia (nee Morris) —Pat Stocks, 94, passed away peacefully at her home in bed July 1, 2015. It is believed it was caused from carrying her oxygen tank up the long flight of stairs to her bedroom that made her heart give out. She left behind a hell of a lot of stuff to her daughter and sons who have no idea what to do with it. So if you’re looking for 2 extremely large TV’s from the 90s, a large ceramic stork (we think) umbrella/cane stand, a toaster oven (slightly used) or even a 2001 Oldsmobile with a spoiler (she loved putting the pedal to the metal), with only 71,000 kilometers and 1,000 tools that we aren’t sure what they’re used for. You should wait the appropriate amount of time and get in touch. Tomorrow would be fine.

This is not an ad for a pawn shop, but an obituary for a great Woman, Mother, Grandmother and Great-Grandmother born on May 12, 1921 in Toronto, the daughter of the late Pop (Alexander C.) and Granny (Annie Nigh) Morris. She leaves behind a very dysfunctional family that she was very proud of. Pat was world-renowned for her lack of patience, not holding back her opinion and a knack for telling it like it is. She always told you the truth even if it wasn’t what you wanted to hear. It was the school of hard knocks and yes we were told many times how she had to walk for miles in a blizzard to get to school, so suck it up.
With that said she was genuine to a fault, a pussy cat at heart (or lion) and yet she sugar coated nothing. Her extensive vocabulary was more than highly proficient at knowing more curse words than most people learned in a lifetime. She liked four letter words as much as she loved her rock garden and trust us she LOVED to weed that garden with us as her helpers, when child labour was legal or so we were told. These words of encouragement, wisdom, and sometimes comfort, kept us in line, taught us the “school of hard knocks” and gave us something to pass down to our children.
Everyone always knew where you stood with her. She liked you or she didn’t, it was black or white. As her children we are still trying to figure out which one it was for us (we know she loved us). She was a master cook in the kitchen. She believed in overcooking everything until it chewed like rubber so you would never get sick because all germs would be nuked. Freezing germs also worked, so by Friday our school sandwiches were hard and chewy, but totally germ free. All four of us learned to use a napkin. You would pretend to cough, spit the food into it and thus was born the Stocks diet. If anyone would like a copy of her homemade gravy, we would suggest you don’t.
She will be sorely missed and survived by her brother George Morris, children: Shauna (Stocks) Perreault, Paul/Sandy (Debbie) Stocks and Kirk Stocks, son-in-law Ian Milnes and son from another mother, John McCleery, grandchildren: Lesley (Sean), Lindsay (Lucas), Ashley (James), David (Tia), Brett, Erin (Brian), Sean, Alex, Courtney and Taylor and great-grandchildren: Connor, Emily, Ainsley, Tyler and Jack. She was preceded in death by her loving husband Paul (Moo) Stocks and eldest daughter Shelley (Stocks) Milnes and beloved pets Tag, Tag, Tag and Tag. All whom loved her dearly and will never forget her tenacity, wit, charm, grace (when pertinent) and undying love and caring for them.
Please give generously to covenanthousetoronto.ca “in memory”. A private family ‘Celebration of Life’ will be held, in lieu of a service, due to her friends not being able to attend, because they decided to beat her to the Pearly Gates. Please note her change of address to her new place of residence, St John’s York Mills Anglican Church, 19 Don Ridge Drive, 12 doors away from Shelley’s place.
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This of course is all tongue-in-cheek and we have to believe Mary would get a good laugh out of it. On a more serious note, we are all destined to have an obituary written about us — one day. Without being morbid, what would you like yours to say?
Now is the time for you to create that legacy, the memories that people will recall once you are no longer around. What would you like them to say about you, your life, your virtues, your vices?
Take the time while you have it, to create the life you will be proud of, the legacy that will outlive you and endure for generations to come.

 

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Rules Or Rewards

“We Are Rules OR We’re Rewards”
–Dr Marc Dussault

A RULE is EVERYTHING that HAS TO HAPPEN to feel X. A reward is what you are aiming to achieve.

For example, a mother might have RULES that to be happy (Reward):

  • The house has to be spotless.
  • All the kids are in a good mood every day.
  • All the kids are getting straight As.
  • Her husband NEVER works late.
  • The garden is perfectly groomed.

A business person might have RULES that:

  • They have to win EVERY JOB that comes in.
  • Employees all have to do to their jobs PERFECTLY.
  • Nothing ever goes wrong.
  • ALL his/her to do list items are completed EVERY day.

The more extreme the list of RULES – the WORSE it is.

When it gets out of hand, it’s OCD (Obssessive Compulsive Disorder), but it’s destructive way before it gets to that point.

RULES are insidious – they kill relationships and create conflict and confrontation where there is no “logical” reason for it.

Most arguments are rules-based.

  • I want the towel hung up on THIS hook.
  • Why can’t you put the dishes in the dishwasher instead of the counter/sink?
  • Why do you have to put so much toothpaste on your brush?
  • I wanted my egg soft-boiled, now it’s hard boiled!

Y’see what I mean?

It,s much harder than it sounds to reduce the number of RULES that RUIN your life, but start the process by writing them down – AS THEY OCCUR.

These are not the same as disempowering beliefs or thoughts.. RULES are things that MUST happen for you to feel X…

Review the lists above and give it a go – you can’t get it wrong… You can only ignore it at your peril.

Psst! If you can’t do it to yourself – OBSERVE others – You’ll quickly recognise them when you realise how ridiculous most of them are!

 

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New Graduates – 3 words

What 3 words would you say to a new graduate entering the workforce today?3 words

I like these challenges because brevity forces clarity of thought (and intent).

Provide your contribution as a comment below.

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Your 10-year old self…

This is from a parody account, one of several on Twitter… But its wisdom is worth sharing here with you.

Think about yourself when you were ten, would you be disappointed in the person you are now?

Twitter Wisdom

Now take that to the next level and ask yourself who you want to become in the NEXT 10 years or at your next milestone decade (30, 40, 50, 60….).

“If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll get there”
– Dr Marc Dussault

One of the easiest ways to start the process is to do New Year’s Resolutions. I have a program specifically designed to take you through the process AND you can start it ANYTIME.

There is nothing worse than not knowing where you’re going and then being disappointed when you get there!

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Inertia – the hardest force to overcome

Today’s blog post is a reminder we all need – especially when the new year starts and we’re filled with optimism and hope for things to change.

Without wanting to sound heavy-handed, cynical or critical – no one aims to become overweight, fat or obese and yet in the developed world, the statistics are staggering – 2 out of every 3 people is considered overweight…

How does that happen?

One bite at a time.

The concept is called inertia: Defined as “The predisposition for a body to remain in the state that it’s in.”

We know the feeling when we’re lying in a warm, soft bed, the last thing we want is to get out of bed.

That’s inertia.

Inertia is the #1 force that prevents us from achieving our goals, dreams and aspirations.

The following 3 blog posts are “classics” – I encourage you to read them and make the decision to overcome your inertia – TODAY, THIS YEAR.

Are you a champion? Do you have what it takes to become one?

How to create momentum from motivation

Why smart business people fail

My approach to live and business is uniquely “different” – if you want extra-ordinary results in your business, read the summary of my mentoring methodology.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/coaching-philosophy/

If you want to make this year your best year ever, this is my all-time most popular program:

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/personal/my-best-year-ever/

If you want to understand my bias, have a look at my personal and professional profile. I have lived these strategies and boundless possibility thinking to create my own ultimate destiny.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/dr-marc-dussault/

Psst! Even though we are just starting the month of February, most people have already forgotten their New Year’s Resolutions… Isn’t that shocking?

Oops… Am I talking about you?

Sorry… but it is what it is – unless you have a system or process that works. Check out My Best Year Ever program. You can start it today and make 2015 DIFFERENT and BETTER than 2014.

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Are you achieving your New Year’s Resolutions?

The photo below, from Twitter reminded me that we’re just a few weeks into the new year and most people have already forgotten their New Year’s Resolutions

There are only a FEW people who wake up every morning with this level of enthusiasm and optimism.

Twitter - Happy To Sleep 5 more minutes

Click on the image or one of the hyperlinks and I’ll help you make 2015 – Your Best Year Ever.

 

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Creating A New Habit

As a reader or subscriber to this blog, you know I am an avid proponent of New Year’s Resolutions. One of the challenges you will face is creating NEW HABITS to support your NEW RESOLUTIONS.

This presentation, by Matt Cutts is an outstanding example of how one simple idea/concept can make ALL the difference between success (creating a new habit) and failure (getting stuck with the old habit).

If you manage to do this – please commit to sharing your success below…

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Beliefs Versus Behaviours

Vegan Eating Hot DogIt”s that time of year, when the calendar ticks down to the end and the new year peeks its nose around the corner, enticing you to “change and improve” in the “new year”… Many make New Year’s Resolutions… But only a few write them down, remind themselves of their commitment on an on-going basis and actually follow through.

Why is that?

I have blogged about this in hundreds of blog posts, dealing with procrastination, inertia, momentum, motivation, etc. When all is said and done – you need a compelling reason, a driving force to make you want to change. Without THAT, it’s all INTENT and no follow-through.Bill Murray Tweet

The system I use to achieve my goals is called “My Best Year Ever Program“. Click on the hyperlink and see if you can make 2015 your best ever…

 

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Are You Talking To Yourself Enough?

When it comes to getting better results in your career, your business, your health, wealth, relationships or any domain of life; people love to complicate things for some reason – WHY?!?!  Well I’ve got something for you that’s so simple that it’s almost unbelievable.  This simple SECRET is used by more than 500+ PEAK PERFORMERS in the world of business and sport and when you start using it you’ll find your self-doubt disappearing and the destiny you desire appearing faster than you ever imagined.

This is so important to YOUR success I’m not going to intellectualise and ANALyse it.  I’ll get straight to the point…

Start using AFFIRMATIONS.  Affirmations are simply positive statements that succinctly describe a future desired scenario that YOU really want.

Did you know the unconscious mind, or subconscious mind as some people prefer to call it is 30,000 times more powerful than the conscious mind?  So your subconscious mind runs the show – be careful what you tell yourself!

The key to adding REAL POWER to your affirmations is to repeat them many times (I say mine 500 times) so they carve a deep groove in your subconscious mind and trigger it into consistent positive action.  If you’re a winner and want to super-charge your results, you HAVE TO repeat them OUT LOUD with a SMILE on your face and with full attention, intention, conviction, and fire.

START WITH 3 TO GET STARTED – then you can add to your list

So TAKE ACTION NOW and get yourself a journal that you will use EXCLUSIVELY to write down your own affirmations and CREATE your first THREE within the next 24 hours.  Do them while you go for a walk, run, swim or ride EVERYDAY and just watch your results multiply again and again and again.

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Inspirational Quote: The best is yet to come!

Your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come

Always remember that your current situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come


Your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come

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