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Christmas Commercial That Will Make You Cry

Every once in a while there is a video (or commercial that needs no introduction or explanation… This is one of those. Watch and weep.

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People CAN be nice!

As much as I am an optimist, sometimes I admit finding it hard to see the “good in society” these days…

This weekend I saw goodness first hand.

A (previously unknown) neighbour, who parks two car spaces away from me in my underground parking garage left a note on my car window to call him. When I did, he revealed he found a wallet on the roof of my car, with $1,300 in it and wanted to return it to its rightful owner.

I was shocked at all the steps he had taken to find out who it belonged to. We found out that it belonged to the person who rents my second car space… It took +/-10 calls to reunite the wallet to its rightful owner*, demonstrating there are still nice people out there!

* As it turns out, the wallet belonged to a lawyer and the $1,300 were donations he was to deposit in a charity’s account… So you see, when you do good, you DO get rewarded!

I am a firm believer in the Law Of Attraction and the principle of “paying it forward”.

Just remember: Your acts of kindness, generosity never go unnoticed and even if they do – do them anyway. The world will be a better place for it.

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You’re more than $27,000 ahead if you don’t smoke!

According to a Danish study as reported in the July 11th edition of The Economist Magazine, the lifetime benefits to men who give up smoking at 35 are around €25,000 ($27,400), most of that in increased productivity. So if you never smoked in the first place… It’s even more than that.

So what’s the moral of this story? Well, there are a few.

  1. First, smoking is a disgusting, repulsive habit. (Does my bias show?)
  2. Second, it is well understood that it’s an expensive habit for “society” that is stuck dealing with all the health costs associated with it. Less well understood are the costs allocated to the individual. The article in The Economist quantifies it scientifically at more than $27,000. I venture to say it’s much higher than that in lost (social and professional) opportunity costs.
  3. Social opportunity costs can be simply summarised by a comment overheard at a coffee shop recently. “Mate, when I kissed her, it tasted like the bottom of an ashtray… Don’t get me wrong, she was gorgeous, but no one’s that attractive!”
  4. Professional opportunity costs are similar. I know for a fact that employers won’t admit publicly that they shun smokers, but they do. Many now are searching social media to confirm a candidate’s non-smoking status prior to short listing prospective interviewees.

I am not advocating the removal of all vices – just this one. It’s a disgusting, repulsive habit that is costly to you and society with no redeeming qualities or benefits that can’t be acquired otherwise.  If you don’t quit, you’re in for a lot more than $27,000.*

* The benefits alluded to in the Danish study do not take into consideration the costs associated with the purchase of the cigarettes that could be put to much better use… But that is another discussion for another day.

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Inspirational Quote: Montreal gets into the swing of it!

Bus stop swing Montreal

A bus stop in Montreal

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New Graduates – 3 words

What 3 words would you say to a new graduate entering the workforce today?3 words

I like these challenges because brevity forces clarity of thought (and intent).

Provide your contribution as a comment below.

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It’s the little things

It is not often that a stranger’s story can affect you beyond words, but we discovered one person’s story that did just that – and I had to share it. I won’t reveal too much, other than ask that you read this story with an open heart and an open mind. Let me know what you think in the comments.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions. She didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month, we both try to live as normal a life as possible. Her reason for this conditions were simple. Our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me. She had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last-minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office and jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind. I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, “I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart”.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting cancer for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce. At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband.

This is a classic, with different variations. This one came from http://www.snopes.com/glurge/carry.asp

 

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Your 10-year old self…

This is from a parody account, one of several on Twitter… But its wisdom is worth sharing here with you.

Think about yourself when you were ten, would you be disappointed in the person you are now?

Twitter Wisdom

Now take that to the next level and ask yourself who you want to become in the NEXT 10 years or at your next milestone decade (30, 40, 50, 60….).

“If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll get there”
– Dr Marc Dussault

One of the easiest ways to start the process is to do New Year’s Resolutions. I have a program specifically designed to take you through the process AND you can start it ANYTIME.

There is nothing worse than not knowing where you’re going and then being disappointed when you get there!

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Inertia – the hardest force to overcome

Today’s blog post is a reminder we all need – especially when the new year starts and we’re filled with optimism and hope for things to change.

Without wanting to sound heavy-handed, cynical or critical – no one aims to become overweight, fat or obese and yet in the developed world, the statistics are staggering – 2 out of every 3 people is considered overweight…

How does that happen?

One bite at a time.

The concept is called inertia: Defined as “The predisposition for a body to remain in the state that it’s in.”

We know the feeling when we’re lying in a warm, soft bed, the last thing we want is to get out of bed.

That’s inertia.

Inertia is the #1 force that prevents us from achieving our goals, dreams and aspirations.

The following 3 blog posts are “classics” – I encourage you to read them and make the decision to overcome your inertia – TODAY, THIS YEAR.

Are you a champion? Do you have what it takes to become one?

How to create momentum from motivation

Why smart business people fail

My approach to live and business is uniquely “different” – if you want extra-ordinary results in your business, read the summary of my mentoring methodology.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/coaching-philosophy/

If you want to make this year your best year ever, this is my all-time most popular program:

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/personal/my-best-year-ever/

If you want to understand my bias, have a look at my personal and professional profile. I have lived these strategies and boundless possibility thinking to create my own ultimate destiny.

http://www.exponentialprograms.com/business/blog/business-coaching-and-mentoring/dr-marc-dussault/

Psst! Even though we are just starting the month of February, most people have already forgotten their New Year’s Resolutions… Isn’t that shocking?

Oops… Am I talking about you?

Sorry… but it is what it is – unless you have a system or process that works. Check out My Best Year Ever program. You can start it today and make 2015 DIFFERENT and BETTER than 2014.

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Are you achieving your New Year’s Resolutions?

The photo below, from Twitter reminded me that we’re just a few weeks into the new year and most people have already forgotten their New Year’s Resolutions

There are only a FEW people who wake up every morning with this level of enthusiasm and optimism.

Twitter - Happy To Sleep 5 more minutes

Click on the image or one of the hyperlinks and I’ll help you make 2015 – Your Best Year Ever.

 

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Creating A New Habit

As a reader or subscriber to this blog, you know I am an avid proponent of New Year’s Resolutions. One of the challenges you will face is creating NEW HABITS to support your NEW RESOLUTIONS.

This presentation, by Matt Cutts is an outstanding example of how one simple idea/concept can make ALL the difference between success (creating a new habit) and failure (getting stuck with the old habit).

If you manage to do this – please commit to sharing your success below…

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