Monthly Archive for April, 2015

Rules Or Rewards

“We Are Rules OR We’re Rewards”
–Dr Marc Dussault

A RULE is EVERYTHING that HAS TO HAPPEN to feel X. A reward is what you are aiming to achieve.

For example, a mother might have RULES that to be happy (Reward):

  • The house has to be spotless.
  • All the kids are in a good mood every day.
  • All the kids are getting straight As.
  • Her husband NEVER works late.
  • The garden is perfectly groomed.

A business person might have RULES that:

  • They have to win EVERY JOB that comes in.
  • Employees all have to do to their jobs PERFECTLY.
  • Nothing ever goes wrong.
  • ALL his/her to do list items are completed EVERY day.

The more extreme the list of RULES – the WORSE it is.

When it gets out of hand, it’s OCD (Obssessive Compulsive Disorder), but it’s destructive way before it gets to that point.

RULES are insidious – they kill relationships and create conflict and confrontation where there is no “logical” reason for it.

Most arguments are rules-based.

  • I want the towel hung up on THIS hook.
  • Why can’t you put the dishes in the dishwasher instead of the counter/sink?
  • Why do you have to put so much toothpaste on your brush?
  • I wanted my egg soft-boiled, now it’s hard boiled!

Y’see what I mean?

It,s much harder than it sounds to reduce the number of RULES that RUIN your life, but start the process by writing them down – AS THEY OCCUR.

These are not the same as disempowering beliefs or thoughts.. RULES are things that MUST happen for you to feel X…

Review the lists above and give it a go – you can’t get it wrong… You can only ignore it at your peril.

Psst! If you can’t do it to yourself – OBSERVE others – You’ll quickly recognise them when you realise how ridiculous most of them are!



Antimimeticisomorphism: Rainwater Cup Mosaic

To raise awareness among the general public about the global clean water crisis, the artist Belo created an image composed of 66,000 cups of colored rainwater simulating levels of impurities found in water all over the planet. This major work of 3,600 square feet, representing a fetus in the maternal womb, emphasizes the necessity of water, even before birth, for each living person. The goals of 66,000 were many: taking up the artistic and material challenges inherent to this monumental production, and informing the public of the dramatic consequences of a lack of drinkable water.

Thank you to Andrew Powell for forwarding this on to me.